When you were single as long as I was, you're often set in your ways, and you're focused on your career or yourself. Quite honestly, part of me figured if I wasn't married by my late thirties , I probably never would be. As it turns out though, life has a funny way of throwing you a curve ball when you least expect it (wow, that was cliche). Now, here I am, married almost two years, with my new wife, two kids and learning to be a husband and dad (and closer to social security than I am getting my first divers license).
Honestly I never thought my lifestyle was conducive to having a family. Working in radio since my teens, I've bounced around a lot, living in different cities and different countries. I have enjoyed my freedom to pick up and go when I felt like it. I love to travel and explore and meet new people on the road. That's changed now because I have a responsibility to someone other than just myself. There's not a second, hour or day that goes by that I'm not worrying about something...the kid's homework, am I being a good husband, finances, retirement for two instead of one, the cost of food, unexpected repairs, and the list goes on and on. I'm so wound up, that I feel like I've lost a part of me...the part of me I liked, and that my wife fell in love with.
Then she comes along and reassures me I'm doing a good job, reminds me I was late to the whole marriage and fatherhood thing, so I'm doing the best I can. That makes me feel a little better,
There have been some rough patches along the way as I learn to navigate what it means to be a husband and parent...the highs and lows, fun times, helping with homework I don't understand, arguing over how much time the kids should spend online, reminding them to pick up their clothes off the floor, brush their teeth...and this list goes on and on. I've also come to realize things about my personality that I never thought about when I was single, and I guess that's a good thing. It kind of keeps me in check.
I suppose if you're a mom or dad(husband and wife), and reading this, you're likely smiling (even laughing) and saying "Yup, now you're starting to understand what being a parent and being married is all about."